{"id":479,"date":"2024-12-04T13:54:39","date_gmt":"2024-12-04T05:54:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vassesc.com\/?p=479"},"modified":"2024-12-04T15:51:56","modified_gmt":"2024-12-04T07:51:56","slug":"a-letter-for-the-future-4-life-changing-advises-for-my-sons","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vassesc.com\/index.php\/2024\/12\/04\/a-letter-for-the-future-4-life-changing-advises-for-my-sons\/","title":{"rendered":"A Letter for the Future: 4 Life-Changing Advises for My Sons"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Dear Laikynn, Brooklynn and whoever comes next,<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I sit down to write this letter, my heart is filled with love and hope for each of you. Life is an incredible journey, and while I don\u2019t have all the answers, I want to share a few keys of advice that I believe will serve you well. Don\u2019t consider these as rules to bind you, but more as truths to guide you as you navigate the highs and lows of life, much in the same way as I have had the pleasure to navigate mine. You can call these rules if you like, but I prefer to call them advises and just something worth considering as you transition from young boys to reliable and responsible men.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first piece of advice I\u2019d like to give to you is do not buy a pet.<\/strong> I know it might sound strange coming from someone who loves the idea of a loyal dog, who you will always know when you were babies had dogs but hear me out. Before you bring an animal into your life, learn to take care of yourself and the people around you with your whole heart first. A pet won\u2019t fill the gaps of loneliness or responsibility; it will more likely magnifies them. When I bought Zoe, I thought I need companionship, and I\u2019m sure your mum felt the same way about Nala. What we really needed was to be patient, learn to love ourselves and others better. I\u2019m not saying never buy a dog, I\u2019m just saying be patient and instead focus your energy on serving others and learn what it means to love and care for other humans better first. I will repeat, it is not about saying \u201cno\u201d to a furry friend forever (unless you are thinking about getting a cat!) just make sure can guarantee you can offer the same kind of care, attention and love you would give to anyone else in your life, because I pet is a forever thing, a lot longer than you may realise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, no good story starts with a salad.<\/strong> Life isn\u2019t about perfection; it\u2019s about experience. It\u2019s the blend of triumphs and failures, laughter and tears, mistakes and lessons learned that make the best stories. Don\u2019t be afraid to embrace life\u2019s messiness. To say I haven\u2019t had my fair share of messiness would be a lie. Form being married before I met your mother, to drunken nights out with Uncle Dunc and many more friends, to losing everything and gaining it all back. Life is always going to have its challenges, and we must be prepared they are coming. That being said, just because a wild decision might make a \u201cgood story\u201d doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s worth the regret. If you feel like something is outright foolish, take a moment to pause, think it through, and maybe pump the brakes for a moment or two. But don\u2019t let the fear of mistakes hold you back. Life is to be lived, not tiptoed around. If you approach life sensibly, with the willingness to learn from your mistakes you will find a level of self-assurance and confidence that nobody can take away from you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, and probably one of the most important lessons I hope to pass onto you is, you are never alone. <\/strong>There\u2019s a difference between being alone and being lonely. Even in your quietest, most isolated moments, you\u2019re never truly alone. If you believe in God and love Jesus, you\u2019ll carry the comfort of knowing you are seen, loved, and valued everywhere you go. Let your faith remind you that no matter where life takes you, you are surrounded by a love that is infinite. It\u2019s not always about feeling God\u2019s presence in a loud way; sometimes, it\u2019s in the whispers of your heart during the toughest days that you\u2019ll find Him walking with you. But always remember you are never alone, even though you may feel lonely. We brought you to Jesus because both your mum and I know he is there; he has been there with us many times over and it is only right you know he is with you too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Finally, Stay in the game.<\/strong> To many people in life forget the power of compounded interest. Life isn\u2019t about fleeting from one thing to the next at the first sign of discomfort or boredom. The modern world will try to sell you on the idea that everything is disposable\u2014jobs, relationships, goals\u2014but that\u2019s not how we\u2019re designed. Humans are \u2013 and have been for a very long time \u2013 meant to endure, to persist, and to find meaning in staying the course. It is important to note though, this doesn\u2019t mean putting up with toxic situations or settling for something that crushes your spirit. If I had of done that, I would never have had you because I would still be in a toxic relationship, in a toxic work environment, and would never have had the opportunities we have created for this family. But it does mean choosing to commit, to work through challenges, and to see the beauty in the long haul. Consistency builds character, and persistence shapes purpose. The longer you can stay with the right game, the more rewards you will receive in the long run. I promise.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And before I\u2019m done, this just came to my mind. Make a difference.<\/strong> Whatever you do, whether it\u2019s big or small, make it count. Serve. Leave a mark on the people and the places you touch. It\u2019s not about fame or recognition; it\u2019s about living with purpose. Do everything with intention, whether it\u2019s helping someone in need, pursuing a dream, or simply being kind in a world that desperately needs it. Be the person who brightens the room, lifts others up, and leaves the world better than you found it. Contrary to popular belief this is something I true to emulate to you always \u2013 even though sometimes I might fall short \u2013 but I do truly hope that you can take your mothers approach to this more than my own and be the spark in the room in a positive way, always aiming to make a difference to others days, and their life in general.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I want you to know how deeply I believe in each of you. In this life, and the ones that come after us. That after I\u2019m gone, you will be able to take the reins and lead the Hook name into the future with bright shining colours. Life will throw challenges your way. But it will be through faith, resilience, and love, that you will have everything you need to thrive. Remember, I\u2019m always here for you, cheering you on and loving you unconditionally. This isn\u2019t goodbye, it isn\u2019t even see you later, because I am here now. It is just\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Love,<\/p>\n\n\n\n


Dad<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dear Laikynn, Brooklynn and whoever comes next, As I sit down to write this letter, my heart is filled with love and hope for each of you. Life is an incredible journey, and while I don\u2019t have all the answers, I want to share a few keys of advice that I believe will serve you […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-479","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vassesc.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/479","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vassesc.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vassesc.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vassesc.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vassesc.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=479"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/vassesc.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/479\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":482,"href":"https:\/\/vassesc.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/479\/revisions\/482"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vassesc.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=479"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vassesc.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=479"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vassesc.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=479"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}